• Kay & Shi

The Daily Scroll: A Mentorship Recap - September 14th, 2020 Show Notes

Kay:

Hey there Questers, and welcome back! First off, (Kay here), with a big shout out to our editor and my husband on his day-after-birthday! Today is September 14th, which means it's not just the day after my hubby's birthday, it is also our wedding anniversary. Seven years ago today, Danny and I said, "I do,” and had no idea what the journey would look like. But, today's Mentorship Quest is about so much more than just the journey, it's about some of the things that you acquire along the way…


Shi:

Well, this quote comes from one of our favorite Mentorship Quest guides, Will Smith, and he says, “Money and success don't change people, they merely amplify what is already there.”

Kay:

One of our mentors, Paul Martinelli, often says that there are enough bad people in the world doing bad things with money….Which means we need more good people in the world who are rich, who can do good things with their money as well!


Shi:

And, Will Smith is one of those people. He does a lot of good with his influence, and with the money that he makes, and the projects that he participates in. He's a Grammy Award winning American actor, producer, rapper, a five time nominee of the Golden Globe Awards, and, of course - The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air.


Kay:

Well, of course! I feel like Will Smith has grown up with us, right?


Shi:

Absolutely.


Kay:

We watched The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air when we were children. We've watched his career blossom, and we jammed out to “Get Jiggy Wit It.”


Shi:

Yeah!...Independence Day...classic movie.


Kay:

Classic in our family. And then, in that coming of age, coming across things like The Pursuit of Happiness and having him touch us in a different way, has been incredible too. He's just been such a staple as an actor. I would probably say that out of living actors, Will Smith is my favorite.


Shi:

I would have to say he is definitely up there on the top of my list as well. And, he's great as the Genie.


Kay:

He does do a good job.


Shi:

He does a great job and he’s fun! But, he tells us that money and success don't change people, they merely amplify what is already there. And, he's an excellent example of this. You can tell he's a charismatic person, that he's adventurous, and that he seeks to expand and to provide and to do well, and to do good, and to have impact. And, the more money and more success he's had, the more he's been able to do that.


Kay:

Now, we've talked about this before here on the Mentorship Quest, but you see this amplified in a negative way when somebody wins the lottery. And, oftentimes people who win the lottery are spending more money on lottery tickets than they should - which means that they are probably not that great with managing their finances, at least from a wealth perspective. So, they get all that lottery money in and, within two years, they're broke because the money simply amplified what they already had and what was already in place for them was poor money habits.


Shi:

We've probably all heard the quote that, money doesn't make you happy, but everybody wants to find out for themselves. And, Will is telling us here that it really amplifies what is already there. And so, you could make all the money and focus on that and have that be your measurement of success, but then ultimately - when you get those things and you still aren’t as fulfilled as you thought - you realize that what you have already there is a lust for money. And so, more money and more success is just going to be getting more lasting for more money and more success. And, most of us are looking for something a little bit deeper than that…


Kay:

I think that this happens even on the levels of those character flaws that we don't necessarily love. I think this manifested, especially prior to the housing crisis in 2007 and 2008, where a lot of people were out lending. They were getting mortgages that were larger than what they could actually maintain because there was this sense that material wealth would make you more important or better in the eyes of others. And, that is rooted inside insecurity. So, they come in with just enough money to buy a house, end up overextending themselves, and finding themselves in financial ruin a few years down the road…


Shi:

Right. Amplifying what is already there can create this overwhelming desire to "Keep up with the Joneses" or do what you “should” do. And, my husband and I were one of those people. We bought a house in February, 2007 - at the height of the market. Did not get a good mortgage. Ended up foreclosing on that house strategically so that we could save that money to open our third location of our restaurant. But, we got into that situation for the wrong reasons. And, because it felt like that was the next thing we had to do, or needed to do, it ultimately ended up hurting us.


Kay:

What's interesting about that Shi is that inside you're a real box checker. You're the kind of person who likes to have a plan. And, if you've got that plan in place, you want to follow that plan. And so, I bet that in your timeline of life, you had marriage, house, kids, dog - you had this timeline ready to roll. And so, you get enough money to lean into the timeline and it amplifies that personality. Like, “Great! We have that. I can now take the next step in checking my boxes!” And, I think that year was the same year you pulled money directly out of your savings account to give Christmas bonuses to all of our Squeeze In associates. And so, if money coming into somebody's life amplifies who they are, I think you've lived a really good example of how it can amplify it in a good way.


Shi:

Well, thank you. And, to remind you what Will tell us, “Money and success don't change people, they merely amplify what is already there.”


Kay:

All right gang! Today is a #MondayMotives Quest. So, we want you to just ask yourself a question, and sit with your answer for a minute. If you won the lottery today, what would be the first thing you would do? If you answered, “give it all away,” you might not be thinking deep enough. Money used wisely can actually serve more people over time. If you answered, “buy a Ferrari,” you might be seeking happiness inside of things instead of within yourself. And so, whatever that first action is that you want to spend your lottery on, will reveal a lot about your priorities and motives. Which means, you may want to make an adjustment, or this could reveal that you're on just the right path! Are you ready?


Kay & Shi:

Let's quest!



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