Kay:
He there Questies, happy Friday! It is December 4th and this is episode 240! Oh, that’s kind of fun! It’s 12/4 and it’s 240 on our episodes. We’ve got a little two and a little four situation here for you and a Joan Rivers quote to match!
Shi:
That is such a Kay thing to see the synchronicity and the numbers. I’m glad that you did, and you could call it out. If you are a Kay person too maybe tag her in a comment today and let her know that you are a numbers person as well. Your quote comes from Joan Rivers on this Friday and she tells us, “I enjoy life when things are happening. I don’t care if it’s good things or bad things. That means you’re alive.”
Kay:
All right, gang, let’s just real talk on how difficult shutdowns were on everybody because we all had nothing to do.
Shi:
We had nothing to do. Or, if you’re like us, you had a heck of a lot too..
Kay:
…in that home…
Shi:
Small space to do it in. But this was definitely, I think, what most people would call a bad thing. But it also really brought us right into the moment of where we were. You couldn’t really escape it. And that’s the essence here, what this quote is. What we want to focus on here is that being alive means that things are coming at you and things are happening. Tony Robbins tells us if you got no problems, you’re dead. So, it’s not that you want to wish your problems away. You want to wish for better problems.
Kay:
What I love that Joan Rivers says here is that she enjoys life when things are happening. Now, this is a choice. You have to choose to enjoy life when things are happening because she says, I don’t care if it’s good things or bad things but that’s a choice to say, I just am going to enjoy it when it’s happening. If it’s happening, I’m going to enjoy that experience because you can literally not have everything be good all the time. That is impossible. You live on earth.
Shi:
You are a human being.
Kay:
Welcome.
Shi:
That’s the part that really makes this quote profound here- is that you can uncouple your happiness from the circumstances around you and how you define what is good or bad but decide instead that you are going to commit to being joyous and happy, no matter what – because life is going to throw a bunch of things at you. So, taking the conditions off of what you say is going to make you joyful, really moves you into that unconditional space of unconditional love and unconditional joy. That means you can be in that state no matter what it’s happening.
Kay:
Alright, gang let’s talk about some #CommonConditions. I will be happy when I will be fulfilled, when I am wealthy…When I have my dream job, when my roommate moves out, when I get skinny, when I get fat, when I gain the five pounds of muscles, when I start working out, when I’m in this perfect job….That’s what we’re talking about conditions. So, some people can hear the words “unconditional love,” and you might think like parental love or godlike love, or just like conditions in your life. But the conditions are the things that you say I won’t be happy UNTIL…
Shi:
And these are sneaky too. The ones that Kay just mentioned are kind of bigger ones, but like, there are lots of times where you say like, “Well, I just wish that they wouldn’t speak to me that way.” Heck, I’m super guilty of this… “If they could just” …Shoot I’m not even in charge of my own enjoyment and giving all of that power to someone else. I’m saying if they don’t behave in a certain way, that I’m not allowed to enjoy my life. What crappy parameters to put on yourself in order to achieve “enjoyment, fulfillment, or happiness.”
Kay:
When you’re in that specific situation, you end up allowing your happiness and your joy to be dictated by somebody else. As Shila said, you literally give your power away. You surrender it to the other person, and you allow their whims, their decisions, and their choices to be the things that dictate your attitude, and your attitude is really the one thing that you have the most control over.
Shi:
Well, we hope that if you’re like, “okay, well, how do I shift into this appreciation and enjoyment of things, good or bad?” that you will go to kayandshi.com and get that eBook that we talked at you about last week because we gave you five of our very, very best strategies. They’re easy too! You can apply them within five seconds. Our best strategies to shift it from a place of frustration or disappointment or disengagement and into a place of fulfillment and gratitude and enjoyment. We hope and encourage you to go download that eBook because it’s just got our very best tricks in here that we use pretty much every day.
Kay:
Alrighty gang. So, just a reminder, Joan Rivers tells us, “I enjoy life when things are happening. I don’t care if it’s good things or bad things. That means you’re alive.”
Shi:
All right, that brings you to your #FriYay quest!
Kay:
Fri-yay!
Shi: …today…bad or good…We want you to challenge yourself to appreciate all of the happenings in your life this weekend, and simply enjoy the feeling of being alive and uncoupling those conditions from your enjoyment. Are you ready?
Kay & Shi:
Let’s Quest!
