• Kay & Shi

A Daily Scroll: A Mentorship Recap - November 16th, 2021 - Show Notes

Kay:

Welcome back Questers, it is Tuesday, November 16th, and this is episode 467. We're stoked to be with you today. We have a quote from a really admirable woman, the very first female aviator to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean. You know her, we love her, Amelia Earhart.


Shi:

Her quote for you today is, "The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity."


Kay:

What a fantastic quote from a woman who was clearly a pioneer. I believe she even died doing what she loved most in piloting planes. And she just created so many incredible legacies within her work and in her passion.


Shi:

So, when someone is accomplished like that, just like yesterday, we talked about Elon Musk. When we look at someone like Amelia and her tragic death, lost at sea and doing what she loved, don't let that distract you from her triumph of life because she truly accomplished so much. She really advanced women's aviation forward in a really meaningful way. Her quote here for us today, talking about that, we've all been there in the middle of a decision, and it just hurts and it's painful and you feel stuck. Every option you weigh just feels sticky and heavy and hard.

Then if you reflect back on your life, you probably think of instances where you just decided. You came through that decision-making process. You came out the other side of it and when you reflect back, you're like, “You know what? The decision was the hardest part of that whole thing.” Because once you commit, once you cross that line of commitment, you've burned the boats as they like to say. You don't see this backdoor out. You're not looking for this half foot in one foot out.

So that decision, you think about the word incision, this is to cut from a decision. You've cut off other choices. You've singled out your one choice and you're deciding to do something, and they think that there's a lot of power, but I think the misconception comes when someone says I've made the decision, but what they've really made is the intention to make the decision in the future.


Kay:

Well, decision-making is difficult. So difficult, in fact, we want to share with you the tale of a dear friend and colleague of ours who finds decision-making so incredibly painful that he actually will not do any thinking around any form of decision that he makes. Once he makes a decision, he just does it.

So, this gentleman goes by the name of Jared Yellen. If you are in our circle, you likely know of him, but he has literally told us that decision-making is so painful. “I hate being in the weight of a decision, that once I decide something, I either do it or I don't and that's the bottom-line period, end of story.” Even in the middle of 2020, when the pandemic was at its height, he moved his family from Connecticut to Florida in the course of two weeks, because that is what he decided and that is what he made happen.


Shi:

And you know how much this sucker accomplishes you guys.


Kay:

So much.


Shi:

Jared is mainly accomplished, and accomplishment shouldn't be your only driving force if that's not motivating for you. For someone like Jared, that’s his life. And he includes in his accomplishments being a dad and being fit, so he finds his balance in his Jared way. Not everybody is a Jared, but if accomplishment is one of those things that you're attracted to, decision-making is one of the key skills. And it is a skill that you need to master in order to achieve the level of excellence that you're striving for.


Kay:

You know, Jared is a little bit of an anomaly. Most of us are kind of more like Humpty Dumpty. We're just sitting on that wall, and if we fall off and we're not intentional about it. Chances are we're going to fall into pieces and it's going to take all the King's horses and all of the King's men to put our life back together again if we don't make that decision ourselves.

Have you ever been in an instance in life where you didn't make the decision and the decision got made for you? Maybe you regretted what happened or you look back and you're like, “Man, I probably had more power in that than I anticipated that I did.” So, don't be Humpty Dumpty. Maybe take a little bit more out of the Jared book and get off that wall.


Shi:

You know, in 2017, we attended Tony Robbins' Business Mastery, and the resounding phrase that stuck out for us long-term from that event -- it was worth the entire price just for this phrase -- was that you get what you tolerate. So, many of us are tolerating things because the pain of the decision, or probably more accurately the pain of the logistics that the decision requires is so innate in your mind that you don't make the decision and you tolerate a person, a circumstance, an experience, a job, a level of standard of behavior from yourself or from others or those around you.

Then it's often, as Kay mentioned, the decision will get made for you eventually and it won't happen on your timetable. It'll happen on somebody else's or on nature's timetable which doesn't always necessarily take into account all of the things that you would like to be in place in order for that trigger to get pulled or decision to get made. So, to remind you of what the very inspiring Amelia Earhart tells us, "The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity."



Kay:

Alright, gang, that means your quest for today is definitely going to be a Decision Quest. Is there a decision that you've been putting off? Come on, if you know what it is, you know what it is, and right now you're facing that heat. We want you to face that decision head-on and be tenacious, just like our pioneer Amelia. No second-guessing and no doubting, just make that decision and move forward. You got a couple of sisters over here that are right behind you. Are you ready?


Shi:

Let's quest!